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Deliberating the
Digit Dilemma
In this day and
age the dating scene is oddly more open and yet, more
defensively frightened then ever before. Also in this day and
age, the chances of you seeing this person on a regular basis
or being able to relay messages via friends or family is slim
to none. This is why the glorious need for the phone number
exchange is in existence. In this section we are going to
divulge the best ways to give or get a number, when not to
give or get a number, and also some alternatives to the
traditional phone number exchange.
When you ask
someone for their number, there are a few different scenarios
that you probably fit into. One, you really want to call this
person, two, you’re not sure but you want their number just in
case, three, you don’t want to call them but you ask them for
their number to avoid being rude. If you find yourself in any
of these given situations there are some things you are going
to need to think about before doing the digit dead. If you
really want to talk to this person and want means to get a
hold of them at home, you should approach it in a way that
makes it clear that you are honest and not a stalker setting
up camp. Remember to smile, be forthright and kind, and make
eye contact to set up an intimate yet comfortable environment.
You also can continue this non-threatening vibe by not bluntly
saying “ hey, give me your number.” Even “Can I have your
number?” is a little bit too jarring. Try adding finesse by
adding a layer of honesty, (who’da thunk) and say, “ I’ve
enjoy talking with you so much, I’d love the opportunity to do
it again some time. Is there a way I can get in touch with
you?” Ahh, now you’ve left the door open to other means of
contact while also complementing their conversational skills.
You can also offer them your number to put them in the power
court, but with that you do have less control yourself about
the outcome.
If you are the
“just in case boat” you have slightly more delicate job for
getting or giving the number without , saying, “ I’m not sure
I like you that much but…I guess I’ll get your number.” I’m
not sure that if you said this to someone if they wouldn’t
promptly put you in your place with a healthy tongue lashing.
So try a safer approach while maintaining the vein of honesty
by asking, “I’d love to call you, but I’m having to travel a
lot here lately (insert appropriate reason) could I get your
number and give a call when things slow down. With this you
left yourself open to option and also not left this poor
person sitting by the phone waiting for an invite to the
opera. No matter what, do not ask for a number simply because
you feel obligated or that it would be the polite thing to do.
This variation on consideration for others is anything but
that. You will inevitable have some hurt feelings with this
scenario because …you lied, duh! You make someone
think you like them and then you never call because you don’t
is putting you on the fast track to corrupted karma.
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