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Here’s a tip that I bet you may not have thought of and that is not asking someone out for a first date on either Friday or Saturday. These two notorious date nights put an instant pressure on a first date that will only restrict its potential. Besides who wants to admit to a stranger, “ Oh, thank God, I had nothing to do on a Saturday night.” So shoot for a Wednesday or Thursday when they are less likely to already have plans (or at least not be embarrassed to admit that they don’t have any plans on those nights.) And who knows, if all goes well you could end up having a date on Saturday night after all!

Also to secure a yes it is best to give specifics. Don’t just say, “Hey, you want to go out some time?” Because you’re either going to get a ‘no’ that leaves you with no option for negotiation, or you’re going to get a yes, which means you haven’t really asked them on the date yet, and you’ll have to muster strength all over again. So when you ask them offer a location option and a day option. Then they have a moment to think and they won’t feel bombarded and offer a knee-jerk ‘no’ in response. A general rule is to give at least 5 to 10 days between when you ask for the first date and when it will take place. But to be honest, sooner is better than later. If you just got done having an amazing conversation with someone at the Laundromat, feel free to ask them if they would have time for an ice cream right now. Chances are you’d probably get a ‘yes’ because their in the moment too. And if you do get a ‘not right now’ you can easily and gracefully offer for some time next week. The main thing to remember is to ask when you’re in a good mood and feeling a positive vibe. Don’t be self-loathing and say, “ Might as well get turned down today. My day is already in the crapper.” You’ve already sealed you’re fate and you will get a ‘no’ with that kind of attitude, honey.