Friends are an
irreplaceable part of becoming social. Now, there is
difference in being and acquaintance and a true friend,
acquaintances are people you “hang out with”, they lack the
emotional depth of the relationship to really share life on
multiple levels. Start by thinking about the acquaintances you
have presently that are interesting, have similar interests
and ideals or theirs groove with your in a complementary
fashion, and they have some time in their schedule to maybe
squeeze in some quality friend time with you. Talking is the
key to friendship. Talking about hopes, dreams, and fears,
along with enjoying each others company is the key to brewing
up a fab friend. Friendships don’t need nearly as much
chemistry as they need sense. This breed of relationship is
best maintain through a strong grounding in reality, give and
take, humor, and honesty. Just like in any relationship
dependency will be the death of a beautiful thing.
Your mental state when
begin to pursue friendships is really important, so I’m going
to give you a little check list to see where you are on the
road to friend-securing- emotional stability.
·
Your expectations are realistic in that you accept that you
and your friend are different people.
·
You are tolerant of your friends’ differences use the same
realistic standards for tem as you use for yourself.
·
You are available and not simple relying on this friendship
for convenience.
·
You are honest to both yourself and your friend
·
You are open and willing to share your feelings.
·
You are independent and able to stand on your on two feet.
·
You are empathetic and able to understand where your friend is
coming from.
·
You enjoy your friend for more than the fact that they like
you.
·
You are capable of being unselfish and not self-centered.
This check list
also goes for your friend so take a look and if you feel they
might be taking advantage of your friendship in might be time
to demote them to acquaintance level and pursue greener
pastures.