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Inappropriate Places to Meet People
I know some of the following places are some
of the most tempting to go searching for love at…but don’t.
They are either notorious for being more trouble than they are
worth or turning out, let’s just say, less desirable results.
The first on the list is the ever so tempting, office. The
work place seems like an obvious no-no, but at the same time
it provides an attractive comfort and familiarity level. The
bad thing is no one will be comfortable when everyone else in
the office becomes a little too familiar with your
relationship and start discussing it behind your backs. Even
less comfortable is the prospect of someone losing their job.
And do to the fact that most beginning relationships would not
be able to handle the pressure of public scrutiny plus
financial instability; you are likely to lose your love as
well. So nix the idea of a 9-to-5 affair, and save that
concentration for the promotion you’ve been vying for.
The ever ominous Bar is, yes indeed, a big
no go. Bars basically combine all of the elements that you
should absolutely not be looking for someone in. For example,
you can’t really see the person that is altered that you can’t
really hear. Yuck, yuck, yuck. I don’t care what anyone says
everybody acts different when they are sober than they do when
they are drunk, and one of those differences is the fact that
they are going to be considerable less discriminating and a
bit ashamed of their drunken advances. Starting any
relationship with regrets is bad news. Please don’t think I’m
promoting a second prohibition, I’m just suggesting you go to
bars with friends to have a good time, and yes talk to new
people only minus the relationship search part.
One-night-stands are just that, one night, and usually a bit
on the degrading side. So, if you do meet someone you kind of
dig at a bar, don’t invest the whole evening into them. Keep
it casual, and set up a time and place when you two are not
tipsy and you can get a real good look at each other in a
non-threatening public place to have an official meeting.
There is
also a fine line that must be walked when it comes to any sort
of purely “single” event. Do not go for the purpose of hooking
up and that’s it, because the tinge of desperation that will
waft from your intentions will turn of most everyone and also
prevent you from having a genuinely good time. Singles events
can be a blast, full of enthusiastic people without
expectations or previous attachments. Also when pursuing
online dating services you must remember that it is a tool,
and a highly effective one at that, to match you with some
awesome people. It should not be, however, the means of having
the relationship. The goal of online dating databases are to
make singles available for actual dating, and that means
meeting in person with realistic expectations, not living in
some sort of cyber fantasy alone in your house. Might I refer
back to the rule of getting out of the house. It simple is not
attractive and will inhibit you socially if you rely on the
internet as your soul means of interpersonal connection. The
key is to meet a special someone on the internet, go
somewhere, and have enough of a personal foundation of hobbies
and interests that give you interesting life experience that
you have more to offer than, “I surf the web.” or “I play
video games.”
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