You got a yes and now you’re entrenched in the details
surrounding the big first date. What ever you do don’t get
bogged down with the elusive concept of perfection, because no
matter how much you strive for some sort of perceived
perfection you will inevitable fall short. So instead, focus
on comfortable and fun. This is you opportunity to have this
person get to know you, and they won’t be able to do that if
you’re tying to be someone else in a situation your not
exactly comfortable in. For example, if you want you and your
date to have lobster on the first date because you heard it
would be impressive or something. But, you have never eaten a
lobster and wouldn’t know how to eat it from an ear of corn, I
then recommend that you change your dinner plans. The stress
involved in feeling awkward will turn your date sour, and
you’ll be out some decent money. To avoid such needless
failure I am going to give you some guidelines that seem
obvious, but can easily become after thoughts that could reek
some serious havoc.
First on the
list is…Do something you like! This is the perfect opportunity
to reveal a part of your personality by choosing something you
already enjoy doing. And hopefully so will your date, if they
didn’t they probably would say something when you asked them.
And then you can tailor some options from things you still dig
doing. The second rule is to choose something that you can
actually afford. I mean if things go well, how are you going
to be able to go on a second date if you’re bankrupt? Simply
put, if you can’t continue to spend that way on all of the
dates following then you should scale back. You don’t want to
put yourself in the situation where you are wondering whether
they like you or your wallet more. You could also make your
date feel inferior if your spending habits seem out of their
league. It also just comes across as showing off on the first
date as oppose to if you paid the same amount for a date when
you two had become more committed, and then it comes across as
romantic and emotionally invested.
Number three is to do something that does not require buying
new clothes. New outfits tend to be less comfortable, less
tried and true, and generally more of a pain in the butt. Look
nice, know what you look good in and what you feel the most
comfortable in. also don’t wear something that you can’t
handle having something spill on in stride. Nothing is quite
as unattractive as someone freaking out, snapping at the
waiter, and then pouting about the stain on their suede
whatever for the rest of the night. Also go somewhere you two
can talk. Even though movies are ingrained in our minds as
date heaven, they don’t give you the needed conversationally
welcoming environment a first date needs to truly thrive.