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Planning a First Date
Number five.
Pick a location that is relatively easy to get to. Really long
train, car, or boat rides might be great once you’ve gotten to
know each other, but for the first time you don’t want to
overwhelm each other with to much intense togetherness,
because you might overstay each other’s welcome. And then
you’re stuck for the rest of the date. Both of your patience
and nerves will tolerate shorter periods of intense getting to
know you much better. Now this is an important one, avoid
choosing an activity with lots of competition involved. It
will inevitably end with one person feeling like a winner and
another feeling like a loser. Not so cool I think we can all
agree. Even if it isn’t you and your date that are competing
if you’re trying to impress someone, and in the meantime
someone else is kicking your butt, your demeanor will not be
in its tip top form regardless. Also avoid large amounts of
alcohol, that could make you say or do something you may
regret. There is also the issue of possibly having to drive
afterward. And leave time to get to know each other. That
means a happy median between activity and quality time.
Quality time that includes minimal outside distraction so you
two can really get a sense of each other’s personality.
The big nine is
to be sure not to incorporate other people you know into the
date. That means no meeting with family members or friends or
co-workers. Or planning a location where you think you two
could possibly run into any of these people. The mood would
shift from you two getting to know each other into your loved
ones getting to know your date. That is a stage that should
come much later, so as not to totally freak out your poor
date. Another way to avoid, freak outs and insure the desire
to have a second date is to keep the other party wanting more.
That means your best bet is to choose an activity that is only
two to three hours long, preferably two or under will keep
damage down to a minimum.
Bad first dates
start with bad date ideas. What all of these bad ideas have in
common are unrealistic expectations. On the very top of our
list of dreadful first date activities is going to a Wedding.
Noooo! Weddings are a huge first date no-no, due to the fact
that you’re probably surrounded by relatives or friends, the
stakes are off the charts, and there would be no quality time,
just no! Next would be a New Years Eve Party and Valentine’s
Day. Once again if you stick to the guidelines you can clearly
see that these are in blatant violation. High expectations,
new outfits, booze galore, and possibly friends and the like.
Valentine’s Day also tries to impose this manufactured and
artificial romance on your first date that will either make
both of you feel very uncomfortable, or try to create a
feeling simple out of the demanding atmosphere as oppose to
basing it on the actual chemistry you two are feeling. You can
go ahead and throw Thanksgiving in that category, although I
sincerely hope your instincts are astute enough to run from
that first date option like it were the plague. Oh, and the
beach is no good also. It just requires too much skin and also
too much time, in general not a good idea.
Ok, now that we
got the worst options out of the way, let’s take a look at the
so-so ones. The movies have their pluses and their minuses as
a first date option. A plus would be the tingles you get from
hold hands in the dark and have an opportunity to calm down a
bit before you have to really talk to each other. A minus
would be that choosing a suitable movie may be a task, and
then you don’t have a lot of connection time. I say save it
for date two when you two would already have gotten to know
each other a bit and what movie to see wouldn’t be quite such
a shot in the dark.
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