The Big
Grey: The Day After and the Area There After
It’s not a first date. It’s not a
relationship. What the heck is it?! You are now in the
precarious place of defining the indefinable grey area between
your first date and perhaps a full blown relationship.
There are a barrage of thoughts and questions running
though your mind at this stage, so my firs piece of advice is
to calm down and take a deep breath. We are going to swim
through these murky waters of slight confusion together and
with remarkable ease. We’re going to cover the how-tos and the
importance of opening up while not feeling compelled to
confess all, how to ask questions without interrogating, how
to really listen, and how to let the person your seeing get to
know the real you without freaking them out. It’s all about
breaking down barriers while leaving some boundaries.
Immediately after a first date
you are going to have some second thoughts on the first
impressions that were made, and possible move into a zone of
overanalyzing. If your date did not soar to the limits you had
anticipated then there may be some self consoling in order
during this time as well. If it was an OK date then the
biggest question may be if you should and if so, when. But
let’s say the date was as splendid as a banana split on
parade; a call will take place only under some different time
schedules depending on the person. And in those times when
becomes obvious after several dates that it is not going to
work for the long haul, we are going to discuss how to make a
clean and relatively painless break. I say relatively, because
some pain is inevitable in this situation, but the pain
involve when a relationship that is prolonged unnecessarily is
excruciating.