Well, you started talking to them, you two
are really hitting it off…now what do you do? Don’t worry
we’re going to be discussing just that in this next section.
From asking for the date, dealing with the consequences, and
even planning the actual date we are going to deconstruct the
ins and outs of asking for the date. Nervousness surrounding
the asking of the date is going to rear its ugly head no
matter how experienced you are in dating or even how many
dates you’ve been on with that particular person. We are going
to discover how the tingles can be a fun thing and also what
to do when the tingles turn into a pinch to the ego. Hey, egos
need a little pinching every now and then, it keeps ‘em
healthy and pink.
How do you expect to make any progress if you don’t put
yourself out there and risk a little rejection. Let’s think
about it…you ask someone out, they decline, you are
essentially in the exact same position as you were before
hand. Let’s run the same scenario again…you ask someone out,
they accept, its amazing, you start dating, fall in love, and
you spend the rest of your life with your soul mate. Ok, this
won’t happen with every “yes” you receive, but it definitely
won’t happen if you never get up the courage to ask then out
on the first date. And I certainly hope that all you ladies
out there understand that I’m talking to you as well. If you
feel a connection and a mutual interest with someone, you need
to seize this opportunity no matter what side of the sex tree
you fall on.
A
good way to avoid constant rejection is understanding the ways
people say “no” without you even having to ask. First, being
that they don’t seem to be interested in having conversations
with you, or that they mention not wanting to date right now,
or that they’re seeing someone. These are all subtle ways that
you can use as well to gracefully let someone aware of your
status so they don’t have to ask you and then get rejected. So
be aware of the signals that will save you a trip to the ego
recovery room. Above all else, It is important to remember,
“Do unto others, as you would have done unto you.” Be kind and
clear when declining from someone offer. There is definitely a
way to be nice and also not lead them on at the same time.
Being nice is not saying, “Sure, I’ll give you a call.” And
then never calling, hoping that that person forgot. No, that
is called being a cop-out with out the courage to be honest.
Being honest, once again, does not give you permission to be
mean. You never know when you may actually want to go on a
date with this person, or when the might start dating your
best friend, or when you go to get a job and they are doing
the hiring.