You are definitely not going
to meet the person you have decided on in your mind we team up
with you to create the most divine of duos by simply thinking
about them. When you join an online dating community, you
mustn’t think the work stops there. For best results you need
to start getting out and meeting the people who you may be
potentially chatting online with. And in order to meet the
ones that you are going to actually want to invest some time
into, you are going to have to put some serious thought in
where you meet them. And where you do not want to
meet them.
To start with the word of the
day is definitely spontaneity. If you are in the
grocery store or a department store and an attractive person
asks you where the dark chocolate is, or if a certain color
looks good on them, your ears need to instantly perk up and be
prepared for date potential. That goes for if you see someone
you are attracted to, don’t be afraid to make the first move
and say something to them. Caution! Caution! Be aware though
if you are making the move that everyone is bit apprehensive
to a stranger picking them up, so does so very gently with
respect, candor, and a sense of humor. Also if it is the other
way around and someone that you are not particularly attracted
to and are not interested in approaches you decline gracefully
and kindly. Hey, its karma kids. Another good thing to keep in
mind is that when you meet someone on a whim, there will be no
paper work present that is going to bind you into spending the
rest of your life with them. So have FUN, until you do find
your soul mate.
The place that you want to go
to most often are those that you have an interest in and enjoy
whether you were looking for a date or not. There are some
physical aspects that each need to have and that is that you
can see and hear clearly. A place that has all of these
elements are the classroom. So if you’re not in school
consider taking a course on something you’ve always wanted to
know more about and keep your eyes open. Even if no one
strikes you physically, stay open to getting to know people as
friends because connections could lead you to someone who does
get your flame a burnin’.
Also, check out your
neighborhood, it is probably full of datable people who you
probably pass by everyday. So consider starting a conversation
on the elevator, and you’d be surprised by the fact that the
two of you probably know several of the same people. This type
of familiarity can take the edge off of approaching them as if
they were total strangers, and gives you both a bit more
security. However, be weary of dating someone who lives right
next door to you. If you two break up and you live right next
to each other, the probability of you two having a complicated
post break-up fling increases, along with hurt feelings when
one of you has to see the other with their new relationship on
a regular basis, and also an unfortunate stalking situation
could become an issue (let’s hope your pre-relationship
research prevents this!)